Of an extremely busy day

As much as I wish I didn't have to work, I still had to rush around attending meetings after meetings and preparing proposals after proposals. And, after much procrastination, some of the proposals had to be truly rushed out. What an exhausting day.

H took mom to the ADFM centre this morning, showed me some videos of mom enjoying herself at the centre playing games. Things look good. I'm a bit nervous about bringing her on Friday.

To add to that, I went for my first slimming session (sister bought it for me to try). Where I went thru 30 minutes of Ultrasonolypolysis which is supposed to help be break down fats for easier removal from the body. Had to jam on Federal highway for a whole hour. (can you believe that? 10km in an hour? wow...) There wasn't much feeling other than the twitching of my leg when ever the DV currents passed thru the patches to me, some itchy feeling on the other spots and an annoying ringing sound in my ear during the session. After which the consultant told me details of how to achieve my ideal weight and BMI but I'd need to top up on 2 items that would amount to RM2K+. So tempted but can't afford.

So I headed over to B's place for dinner, and it took me another 35 minutes to get there... the highway was still jam then! Tina was visiting and I arrived when everyone has gone out for dinner, so I ate some leftover food. How loved I felt... NOT! chit-chatted for awhile and headed home.

Tried again to install windows on my MAC... still failed only to find out that perhaps my macbook doesn't support booting up on discs of other OSes... DAMN! so now I'm following this guy's suggestion https://discussions.apple.com/thread/2703146?start=0&tstart=0 . Hopefully this would bring some sort of breakthru seeing I have to go thru so much trouble.

And since I was free I was reading my mails and I saw someone with the email address of admin@apco.com sent me a propaganda email telling me to save Malaysia from Anwar... err... why do you even think anyone would listen to a person called admin? If you've got no balls to use your real identity, why don't just go hide back in the cave where you belong?

and now I am going to sleep.

Dummy's guide to buying a 2nd hand house

I just figured since I am struggling to make sense of all these jargons of SnP, DOA, Title, blah blah, I might as well write it down in case I forget them when I become very rich and want to buy 10 houses.

So,

1. Find out how much money you have and how much money you can loan. You need to know how much budget you can afford for this new property you intend to own.
2. Shop around for the property.There are plenty of places you can search. My fav is to go to a website 'cos then I can use search option and skip all irrelevant posts.
3. When you find something you like, make an appointment with the agent/owner and check out the actual property.
4. Make an Offer. You really like this property and it's going for RM150K. You love it but can only afford RM120K since there are some work you need to carry out. Call up the owner/agent, and offer him the RM120K you have and pray he accepts.
5. Acceptance. If the owner accepts your offer, it's time to ask them to take the property off the market, negotiate for booking fees. At this point, ask for the Title or DOA from the owner to prove ownership of the unit. Booking fees are usually 3% of the price agreed or less. Make sure you ask the agent or owner, if you would have to withdraw your booking, or  in the event that the seller pulls out, then what? under what condition can you take back your booking?  Make sure all these are written in the booking receipt.
6. You now have 21 days to get a lawyer to draft out an S&P. Make sure to request for the following documents as your lawyer will need them to draft out the S&P agreement:

(a) Copies of your previous Sale a& Purchase Agreement and Loan Agreement/Title. 
(b) Current year quit rent receipt.
(c) Current year assessment receipt.
(d) Redemption Statement from your bank (if you have charged your house to the bank). 
(e) Letter of Undertaking to purchaser's bank to refund purchaser's bank loan released to you in the event the transfer/deed of assignment signed by you in favour of purchaser cannot be registered/is defective.
(f) Income Tax file reference number.

1. Once a bank agrees to give you a loan and you agree to take it, the bank will send a surveyor to value the property. Get loan offer letter.  
2. Exchange of contracts. Sign S&P agreement pay up remaining balance of 10% of downpayment.You will then need to submit  CKHT form 2 (required to be submitted by Vendor and Purchaser to Inland Revenue Department under provisions of the Real Property Gains Tax Act 1976 (Act 169)(RPGT)), owner needs to submit CKHT form1 30 days after signing of S&P.
3. The property is yours once your lawyer tells you the process is complete and you can take your key.

Hahaha... I just spent 10 minutes trying to figure out which should be the first line in this post. 'cos there's so much to say and I don't know which to say first.

First of, I think we've pretty much derived the fact that I am not a big family person, I will only go for reunions if it is a MUST, and even then it should not exceed more than once a festival. There are 2 reasons for that. First reason, I really don't like noisy events unless it's a karaoke session or clubbing session where loads of wine and booze are served and I can drink myself silly and party like I'm crazy. Second reason, I come from a family of all girls, currently, during festive seasons, my mom is either left alone at home or alone with just me or my sister if one of us decide to go out and entertain other people, so I don't like that idea 'cos it makes me feel guilty and I feel a sense of sadness everytime that happens. This is the same for all festivities, Christmas, New Year, CNY, etc.

Sadly this year, I kinda broke this whole principle and ended up celebrating Christmas and New Year with B's family. Now, I'm not too happy with that but I figured, it's some of the give and take I have to do once in a while. Then came CNY. Where as I said, I doubt we'll ever come to the conclusion of where reunion dinner would be. So, that hasn't even started to be an issue since I'm not yet married, the other issue started, which is the issue that has been happening every single year, where I demand to be left to stay at home for the first couple of days of the festival and I decide when I'd be heading out. So, I was at his aunty's house on the first day when all I wanted to do was just do my work buying the prayer stuff then head home and hibernate.

Then comes 2nd day where I am needed to make an appearance at his other uncle's house, and his best mate's house, which is probably the more tolerable places since there are no crazy gambling going on almost 24 hrs of the day. Then there's the most dreaded day. The gambling open house. Gosh, how I dread those.

So yea, instead of 1 day per festivities, it has become a minimum of 3 days per festivity. And my house is silent as much as it can 'cos there are no one home except for my elderly mom and probably my sister. Guilt hits hard again.

It is not easy to find someone with the same family values as yours, let alone love your family as much as you love them. I cannot be with someone who doesn't see my pain and just takes what I give and take it for granted.

"I don't need a man who can solve my problems, I just need one that can be side by side with me when I face my problems and not just try to entertain me with entertainment and in the meantime create more problems".

Loving someone is when you would put aside all you want and all you desire to be make that someone happy. I can not do this anymore. I have limited love. I already feel that one side is incapable of giving me back the love I'm putting in, I don't want to feel the same way twice. I'm already incapable of  realizing anyting I want to do. Now I can't even find myself being able to focus on loving my mom.

I'm sorry I'll have to let one go.

First day of CNY

day began with me coming down from my room and again finding mom cleaning the altar with absolutely no clue that it's the new year. I just really want to act that it's a regular day... and forget about reminding her. It's so so frustrating. Why allow the existence of such a disease? why the endurance of torture with no free will involved? where's the love?

Different meanings of CNY

Call me daft... but I just realized how different every CNY means to every single individual. To some, it's purely the time of the year they get the license to gamble... mahjong, poker, blackjack, you name it...

To some, it's a time for decorations and marveling of decors and comparing with your neighbors who had the nicest decor. Then there are those who are looking forward to it because it's the time to see those family members whom you might not have had the opportunity to meet at other times. For most kids, it's angpow time and new clothes time.

For me, it's as simple as the time that I'm glad mom is still around to get pass CNY. She can hardly remember what CNY is, or what she needs to do, she no longer wakes up to ask if it's a special occasion. I'm very sad about that. I wish I don't have to tell her what CNY preparations we do every year, or that she needs to prepare angpow... and I wish I didn't have to remind her that it's CNY for the 200th time. Or that I have to watch her eat otherwise she'd just say she can't finish her rice and leave the dining table with just 2 scoops of rice. I really wish none of this will have to happen. But it is happening.

I'm depressed about it and I really wish there was someone I can confide in who would understand what I was going thru. But I don't know such a person.

So here I am wishing you a much Better and Happier Chinese New Year !!!